I got asked recently why I desire relationships with people, and what the point of having relationships with people was. It was such a good question I wanted to blog about it, so here we go. I’m going to tackle this in parts, first emotionally, then logically, then spiritually.
Emotionally speaking friendships and relationships are fun! For the most part at least. I really enjoy getting to know a new person, and building a bond between them. Once that bond is at a certain level you are able to share things, go on adventures, and just chill together. All of that brings joy to my heart. Getting to know people and making lots of friends can bring meaning to my day to day life, it helps me get up in the morning. Although, as of right now I’m not too focused on relationships or friendships because of the goals I am trying to tackle. but that’s just a side note. Friendships are the best, well REAL friendships are the best. The type of friends who actually care about you and ask you how you are, the type of friends who are also your psychiatrist and second consciousness. I also believe laughter to be one of the best things this world has to offer, and although I can crack myself up by myself, it’s always embarrassing to laugh when no one else is around……… Now, when it comes to relationships with women… I could personally do with out that. Just my preference, sharing your full life with someone is a hard thing for me. And also making sure they are cared for in ways they want to be is something that is difficult and comes with time. Some people can’t live without a relationship, they find all there value in it. That’s fine, it’s just not me. I already feel like I’m living 3 lives, so close friendships are enough to keep me happy. If I do end up dating someone, this person would have to had changed my world completely.
Logically speaking, and when I say logically speaking I mean completely analyzing life without any spiritual input. We care about our social needs because millions of years ago it was in indicator of how likely you were to survive. The more we collaborated the more we thrived, so our brains started to pick up on facial expressions so we can recognize how others were feeling and respond appropriately. Now that it is not really necessary to have relationships to survive there is absolutely no real reason to have relationships or friendships… pretty dark. but there you go. A good video on that in the resources section.
Spiritually speaking GOD created Eve because He recognized that it was not good for man to be alone. Read Genesis 2:18. Often times we, Christians, have our most spiritually filled moments in conversations with other people. That’s how GOD works, through people. If you don’t build the right relationships you will never be able to experience that.
All in all, getting emotionally attached to people is a good thing to me. Obviously, don’t get too emotionally attached or you could hurt yourself, but having relationships can bring new meaning to your life and allow you to grow in ways you can’t expect. Emotions is something the world takes advantage of. All these advertisements and sales techniques are built on manipulating peoples emotions. Seriously, there have been many books written about why making people FEEL like they need something will help you get to a sale quicker than a logical statement. The world doesn’t teach us how to handle our emotions it just says “oh they will figure it out”, and then get surprised when things like suicide or mass shootings occur. If you would like to learn how to fully understand your heart and be free of the worlds judgement I’d encourage you to go through something called FOCUS CINCINNATI. (link below). This one of few experiences that completely changed my life for the better. I used to be a very coldhearted, calculated person, but after going through focus I understood the point of emotions and how to navigate that territory for lack of better words.
Hope this helps someone! Till next time.
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2. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis+2&version=NIV
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